Hi, I'm Carmen

Then I began having sex, and that wild, creative self, my truest self, didn't seem to belong there. What I absorbed as a young woman was how to serve: how to please, how to look, how to change who I was in order to be desired. I thought my body was something on offer for others to benefit from. No one had taught me that intimacy begins with how I relate to myself.

In my early twenties, yoga and meditation opened a spiritual path that led me to deeper embodiment. On my first ten-day silent Vipassana retreat, I made a startling discovery: when I tried to scan my body, my awareness hovered outside of it. Over those ten days, I slowly learned to feel from within. It was powerful, intimate and unfamiliar. It was the first thread back to my own authentic self, and my first real experience of intimacy.

I kept following it, through movement, yoga, dance, meditation and eventually Tantra, reclaiming my body, energy and sexuality as sacred. A path to aliveness. Healing surfaced hand in hand with unimaginable pleasure. I learned that this path is not solemn, and that the deepest liberation arrives through creativity, play and love.

I'm still following it. I am a devoted student of embodiment and intimacy, always exploring what it means to thrive in our bodies, our sexuality, our relationships and our health, and asking the question underneath it all: what is intimacy, really? I study it through science, ancient wisdom and lived experience, and I bring what I learn, and what I live, straight into my work.

That is the heart of the intimacy coaching I do today. I guide women from performance into pleasure.

To choose yourself. To know intimacy as mutual, embodied and conscious, with your own body first, then with a lover, then with life itself. I believe eros, our erotic life force, is not separate from how we lead, create and claim what we desire in the world.